i guess i can try writing about it

his hands could close around my waist
it was funny at first,
made me feel small

which is part of being attractive
to men who want to feel important

I tried to make a sound like a storm

I remember screaming
but was it later?
because it’s blurred now
I do remember other people there
who didn’t care

and I remember

having him
ridicule me

telling me I was too little
to make a difference
too small
for anyone to hear


i live in an old house with three young men who i love but we all have different cleaning styles

sometimes I look around
and notice that nothing is actually clean
and I feel like a hostage
with no way to leave
and it’s the surfaces that drive me mad
the walls with their stains
the sills with their mildew
the floors with their dirt, loose and caked on
the carpets are filled
with things I don’t know
hair that isn’t mine caught in the dust
a shower floor that is never one color
but it keeps changing the more I scrub it
and I try so hard to fix it
because I don’t feel I can leave
when I’m crying over grease on a counter

Delicate Machines

there is a delicate machine that took my friends back to L.A.
that also delivered them here to me
and the tension running through terminals
flows like airblown clouds
too wispy,
too faint

to truly recognize

aside from feeling that familiar
at your throat,
that heat and that chill –
that wordless fever –
as you step barefoot, into a line
on cold tile

praying you won’t be the one selected

because you were a half hour late
to the two-hours-early

clutching your bag, your ticket, your ID

and I can’t go with you, from the entry
you leave my car and we get your belongings
and it’s unceremonious

even if we try to take pictures
while my hazard lights are on
and our breath is visible
and we’re both smiling

I tell you to let me know when you’re home
you will once you’re on board
and again at the layover

and I’ll see an update elsewhere
and you’re safe

I think we both sigh

we want a field

we want a field to play in
it’s a simple request
one that all the other schools have
we have a really nice parking lot with a basketball court
and we play soccer and football there too
and there are swings and climbing things for the little kids
over by the cafeteria
but there isn’t enough grass to run on
and so we continue
our entreaties
because we wear uniforms now
and it’s harder to get blood out of khakis than jeans
and it’s harder to get scraped on grass and dirt
than on asphalt
the parents are on our side
there is a building in the back that no one uses
it was a house and if you climbed the right tree,
you could sit on its garage
and read the graffiti about the eighth graders’ romances
“Steph and Kyle” “James and Alisa”
and it hadn’t been entered in a while
I think they wanted to use it
but they tore it down
to give us our field
the year before the school shut down for good
and we were the only group that got to use it
the only kids that went there at recess
the only ones who didn’t get carted elsewhere
in the diocese
in the district
and our knees stopped bleeding
and our mothers and fathers stopped needing to scrub
the clothes they so painstakingly bought
and the buildings are all still there
except that one
and did we do a bad thing?

weather poses

the weather poses different problems than the ones it used to
for me

the sun can reveal different colored skin
on my back and my scalp
my shoulders and my neck
and it can burn
bright patches around speckled scar tissue
but really it’s enough
that it can burn

the wind used to be the thing I feared most
when leaving my house
and the rain
when I wore careful costumes
to disguise
when it was very important that no one knew
what I looked like without wigs
or what the shape of my body was

I still get flashes of that time when the air starts moving
more quickly
the memories lifting from the ground
like motes in a library
in the sun
until I’m breathing them back in


Remembering turning 21 as I turn 27

I can remember how bright
the orange seemed
I remember how little
of that color there was to see

of the sun,
of the bricks,
the light on our skin,
the glint in my eyes

I can remember the colors so much more brightly
than anything [clear] about that lost year

there was a notion of being one
although we never really decided if that were true
I’m still confused
about how when you wouldn’t go with me
I still chose you

that was a shortcoming of my own
of thinking we had a mind of the same
of thinking that you were interested in me
as someone who you didn’t dictate

you might not call it that
“to dictate.”

you might not know

even now

might not still know

that when I turned 21, my best friend got champagne
and gave me one glass,
making sure to say that
it wouldn’t get me intoxicated

it wouldn’t make you mad
(it would)
(“that is sin”)
(I believed you)
(I didn’t know if it were a sin)

I still didn’t tell you.

I’m realizing now that maybe I knew
the level of disconnect that would go on
the ideas I tried to support of yours
that would go on
the notion that I wasn’t permitted to disagree
and the actions that didn’t permit me

that would go on
and on

until I couldn’t bear it
until I ended it
in a yard that felt shared, but it wasn’t mine.

It was the right thing

but I should have told you

when I knew.

needle and thread

I remember when the most intimate thing I’d done

was hold your hand when you were sick,
leave the church when you couldn’t take it,
sit on a bridge when the sidewalk was too much,

close my mouth when I saw you with someone else.

and I know you never told me otherwise
but I know you weren’t mine any more.
I knew I wasn’t yours.

We still saw one another so regularly

(this address of mine covers about five young men,
one young woman,
and me)

I know we were not mean to each other.

We struggled.

I should be able to tell them apart, though.
I should be able to recall at what point it all turned

I should know.

The truth is that I’ve struggled with knowing what was platonic
and what was romantic
and acted on both

for a long time,

I still can’t tell friendship from courtship
if you don’t specify,
and if you’re new.

I still don’t know it if you flirt with me,
if it’s on my mind, I’m terrified.

If it isn’t, I feel better –

even if it isn’t feeling safe.


someone left a green ukulele
flawlessly kept
in a green case

on my old patio

I thought it had been forgotten
by a neighbor,
by a friend who came over to play music

everyone came over to play music

but no one claimed it
no one stepped forward
and it was never clear to me

who I should thank

my own gifts to others involve
small things I find
that remind me of them

and it’s easy for my friends to find me rocks on their travels
things they know I’ll cherish

the anonymity of giving
isn’t a mystery to me

but it’s so hard to not tell someone what you have for them

it’s very hard not to frame it

as something you’d like them to appreciate

incarnation, catch 22

how am I supposed to write about it?
all of my heartbreaks felt the same
some are newer or older
some are dimmer
none are gone

how can I find different words
than the ones I’ve already used?
how do I retire it from what I say,
what I write,
what I do?

how can I even switch topics
when it’s almost the only thing
that I reliably dwell on?
(it’s the only thing
I’m constantly reminded of
the only thing
I’m too aware of)

and how long will it take
before this incarnation
of who I am close with
grows tired of it?

it isn’t even easy to talk about
so why do I keep trying?

I hear the words leave my lips
before I consider them

and they coat my mouth with a regret I can taste
a dry, bitter silk that I remember
as soon as I see the face
of whoever hears them